Maybe I should have started the Mommy Wars series with this post. I guess this is where the wars start. The Birthing Edition. Also known as “how we get our precious babies from inside our bodies into the world.”
We all have our birthing plan and our birthing story. Sometimes the two sound similar and other times they sound like two completely different experiences. The thing is they are ours. If I choose to have my baby delivered by mermaids in the middle of the ocean while I am carried by dolphins and massaged by seahorses as a giraffe helps me with my breathing that is my business. If I choose to share my birthing vision with you then just say good luck. Your opinion is not needed.
I’m aware that my vision might not become my reality. As I’m sure every mother is. I was very blessed with JustaBXgirl. All I knew was that I wanted to have a natural birth. I had no idea who if anyone would be in the room with me. I didn’t know what music I wanted played or anything else. My reality went very similar. I’m considering sharing my birthing story for a future post so I won’t get too far into it now. I was blessed to not need any intervention. I didn’t need drugs or a c-section.
My blessing is not everyone’s. I know mother’s that have planned to go one route and need to do something completely different when the baby is ready to come. I have friends that have had home births, water births, c-sections, vaginal births and I’m sure any other type of birth that might be. Guess what. They are all mothers.
They all made the choice (or sometimes had the choice made for them) that was best for them and their babies. I have seen mothers judged and bullied online for their choices. Why does it matter to you if a mother chooses to have an epidural or not? Why does it matter to you if a mother schedules her c-section? Why does it matter if a mother chooses to have her baby at home surrounded by her family?
What do any of these choices have to do with you? How do any of these choices make her more or less of a mother? Let us stop. Let us stop judging. Let us stop bullying. Let us set a better example for our babies.